Today I had lunch with a new colleague. We were brainstorming about the project on which we are working. As we waited for our food to come, we got to know one another alittle bit. Prior to this, we had only been in group meetings before, and hadn't gotten to a chance to know each other. As we chatted, we slowly moved into our brainstorming session. We noticed we were able to use the things we talked about early on in the conversation. as segways into our brainstorming. We also found that we were more at ease and more creative in our brainstorming because we had gotten to know each other in a small way.
I have been studying in the area of brain function and relationships. The technical term is "interpersonal neurobiology." It is amazing how our brain functions as we are in healthy relationships. In fact, researchers say that it is IN our relationships, that we have become who we are. We are impacted by the experiences of relationships in which we participate. According to research, it could be that my colleague and I were more at ease, and creative because we are learning to be in meaningful relationships with each other.
Here is my question for the day - imagine the relationships in which you participate. Which relationships have left on you positive, amazing qualities? Are there experiences in relationships that have left you with challenges? What might you find in meaningful relationship with others, than could assist you in the challenges you have encountered in past experiences? Please post your thoughts!
A women (men??) who is loved well blossoms like a flower. This is not a direct quote but you get the idea. I believe this whole heartily. I have experienced this both ways. I have almost withered up and died and now and find myself blossoming! All within my heart soul and spirit. The unhealthy relationship was one of control and power over while the present is one filled with acceptance and grace. He truly listens and not just to my spoken words. He is listening to the heart of them. I want this to be true of me of those that come across my path and those planted in my life. I know just last night I was complaining of a frustration with a relationship. I just did not even understand why I am so frustrated. He pointed out how w the relationship used to be about connection and openness and now I felt "fake" answers. The heart seemed closed to me. I am not a surface talker with my friends and realized this is what they had to offer. Is this rejection I wonder? Perhaps. Do I want to pry open the heart of this person..no I have tried that and that does not work. Now what? Wait..perhaps. This requires me to not get callused towards them ..how exactly..Not sure.
ReplyDeleteSo..long and short. I can see why we are more creative( open and vulnerable) when we connect with others.
Denice
I've got a related book in progress "On Intelligence". Enjoy! ~sharijune
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